seriously, i ❤ julian, but i couldn’t resist sticking my nose in and calling out crap as I saw it
in reference to julian posting a pearl cleage essay on violence, rape, and sex.
warning: i go into personal details of my sex life. you have been warned 😉
^run awaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy time^
Hi Julian, I second Jennifer’s words, and would add, that personally, numbers 3, 7, and 8, combined with her heterosexist, coitus-centred, and frankly male supremacist definition of sex, is what had me freaking pissed off at her. (eg “Sex is a powerful and basic drive meant to insure the survival of the species.” HA! Men being raised from babyhood by other men to think that does not make it so)
Her proscriptions would proclude me from being sexual at all with males, because she appears to define sex as piv intercourse, and although I’ve had awful to wonderful noncoital experiences of sex with males, I’ve never, nor do I ever want to have piv sex. I’ve flirted, engaged in sexually charged conversations, read books like the Hite Report (which, by the way is excellent in debunking the “sex drive” myths that Cleage and many others engage in) as well as sexually graphic novels aloud together, “made out,” engaged in various types of frattage, mutual masturbation, oral sex, etc with males before or during which I’ve stated my declarative no to piv sex. I’ve even had discussions about my brand of radical feminism, as well as the pain that accompanies being etered with “large things” in general for me, with several of them. She is saying that since I don’t want piv sex, I shouldn’t even be sexual with them, and while I would agree with about that about some of them in retrospect, about 60% of them? aww, hells, nah, I wouldn’t change it.
My two cents.